I remember the feeling of satisfaction I felt when first heard that Michael Singer quote. I was just entering my 20s and a fervent worryer. My probability of casting my future was so low that I would often wonder whether something was wrong with me.
I realized the notion that “awareness is the greatest agent for change,” according to Eckhart Tolle states. But the distance between being aware and making changes was like an inconvenient delta. Awareness of the own voice was amplified by the same awareness that I could not figure out how to silence it. There were two issues.
If this voice was not mine Why couldn’t I release me from her?
Today, I am exploring this issue with neuroscientists, authors, and psychologists in my show, 33voices. They showed me my inability to calm my thoughts was not due to a failure to work. I was trying to achieve the wrong aim. “This inner voice we all have isn’t something we’re trying to get rid of. It’s something we’d like to tap into,” says Ethan Kross who is a director and professor of the Emotion and Self-Control Lab at the University of Michigan. “The problem is to identify when you are falling to the darker side of conversation. How can we reduce this and highlight the more positive aspect of our inside voice?”
The insights of our guests have helped me to do that.
WHAT STORY ARE YOU TELLING YOURSELF?
My voice inside is a 24-hour narration. Whether your story was true or false,” she elaborates. Therefore, if you go into a situation with the words”This is going to be a difficult job interview. I’m not sure they’re likely to like me you’re probably not going convey the confidence you could if you went into the room with the feeling that they’re excited to meet you.”
Grazer states that these thoughts could create negative self-talk, and decrease our energy and cause our stories to stop us from growing while they could actually be driving it.
HOW DO WE REWRITE THE NARRATIVE?
The thoughts that swirl around you are overwhelming which makes them hard to control. However, despite the harm they cause, the techniques Kross uses in the book Chatterare very simple.
I was interested to know what the rerouted conversations he uses to redirect his own. I look at the practice of self-talk from a distance the man described to get a better understanding. “I try to coach myself through a problem like I’m talking to someone else,” he says. “I employ my name for this [in a quiet voice”Alright, Ethan, how are you going to deal with this problem? ‘”
It’s much simpler to offer advice instead of deciding on our own. Language is an instrument to assist us imagine ourselves as we’re thinking about another person.”
DO WE REALLYHAVE AGENCY OVER OUR THOUGHTS?
Neuroscientist and author Professor. Jill Bolte Taylor didanswer my first question after traumatized brain hemorrhage caused her loss of function in her left hemisphere. She was unable to talk, walk and even remember the particulars of her life, and all the while, she was experiencing the fullness of the present that we have through our right-hand hemisphere.
The overwhelming reaction to her recovery prompted her most recent work Whole Brain Living. In her book, she demonstrates how we can connect the emotional and thinking parts of our brains She reveals a brand new ability to control the way we feel, think and act. “I can change my mood to anger in just a moment. It’s a collection of cells within the brain of my” she writes. “Where do I intend to put my energy? Since it’s all cells and circuitry. . . . The more circuits we have that is running, there is more energy it will have to operate independently. . . . We have more control over what’s going in our brains than we’ve learned in the past.”
A decade later my interviews, they haven’t gotten rid of my worries about stories. Our guests have given me a lasting benefit: the ability to determine how they affect me. When they come to me I listen to the voice of Dr. Taylor saying, “We have the power to choose who and how we want to be in any moment,” and I am able to listen to my own inner voice.